The Family Resolution Center

The impact of divorce on families can be devastating, especially the collateral damage to children "caught in the middle." A hallmark trait of high-conflict divorce litigation is the power struggle that results when both parties place the child in a “tug-of-war” position.

What further mucks the waters of divorce is when one parent has even remote ties to another country. We find that one of the elements of retaliation against parents who win cases against child protective services is that Child Protective Service Agencies are able to have a parent with even remote connections to another country – even when that parent is an American Citizen deported from the United States. We have witnessed the deportation of these parents summarily deported without any due process procedure.

Children already experience devastating damage as pawn in a power play. Evidence suggests that children further suffer when their parents are deported, when they have no control over when or if they may see their parents again. Lawyers and judges throughout the country involved in divorce work, spearheaded by the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC), are looking to mitigate the negative impact on children. But there exists little accurate, deep diagnostic understanding of the family dynamics, or accurate psychosocial diagnostics relevant to the consequences to children from fractured families.

NYACK, N.Y. , June 8 /PRNewswire/ -- Whistle-blower Jill Jones-Soderman, a New York -based social worker and the executive director of The Foundation for the Child Victims of the Family Courts, says she is being persecuted by New Jersey government officials for her role in revealing explosive information.
According to Jones-Soderman, the problems started when she was subpoenaed by a client inNew Jersey to provide information to the family court. She was working pro-bono as a therapist and forensic advocate on the case. While trying to bring certain facts to the attention of the court, Jones-Soderman claims Judge Mary Margaret McVeigh used her position to suppress evidence and testimony, and eventually to retaliate by placing a false complaint with theNew Jersey licensing board. Now, the licensing board is actively contacting other state boards where Jones-Soderman is licensed and posting what are supposed to be closed hearings on the internet.

The suppression of evidence and the collaboration of the various parties involved in the case may have led to the suicide of a 12-year-old boy, Jones-Soderman explained. The boy "refused to be taken from the protective custody of his mother to be placed with the brutal treatment and intimidation of his father," she said. The young boy left a note that read "I love you mom."

"Not one licensing board was in any way interested in the underlying issue of the case: the protection of young children in a wildly rogue, fraudulent and biased court," Jones-Soderman said, adding that the Attorney General's office has been harassing her and her clients using tax-payer money ever since. "Patients visited by the attorney general's office have continued as my patients and have testified on my behalf only to be themselves ridiculed and threatened in court."

NYACK, N.Y., Oct. 13 /PRNewswire/ -- A New Jersey Superior Court judge is coming under fire from a wide array of victims and their families, some of whom have filed lawsuits alleging violations of their civil rights, racketeering, elder abuse and severe unethical behavior, among other crimes.

In one of the more recent cases, Judge Mary Margaret McVeigh is accused of sentencing 96-year-old Blanche Zwerdling to live in nursing home - against her wishes and those of her family - to ostensibly gain control of her trust fund and bank accounts. Full details can not yet be disclosed because the case and a potential investigation are ongoing, but further reports will follow.

According to a family member and court documents, the judge appointed three $300 per hour lawyers for Zwerdling - one as a guardian - while she was placed involuntarily in an assisted-living facility in New Jersey. In addition, her money is being wasted by the court while her health deteriorates, the family member said.

"My mother in law was so happy and comfortable in Florida," said her son-in-law. "Is this how you protect her? Spend her money without discretion, and say in open court: 'she has it so we can spend it.'"

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Alice Walker begins the story of women-
"Dear God, I am fourteen years old. I have always been a good girl."
Women are raised to be good girls-children in blossomed bodies-directed to follow the images and directives of a still-paternalistic society where the word victim is synonymous with women and children. Good manners, obedience, silence are the hallmarks of a socialization that lays the groundwork for victimization by those who capitalize on the assets of the well behaved. Questioning, verbal, assertiveness, independent thought, precocious intellectual development are qualities quashed in children who then become easy prey for predators or women who become easy prey for obsessed abusers.

Public advocacy for victim posturing in misery, helplessness, fear of reprisal, submission; painting the picture of pain and suffering is exacerbating the problem and feeds the perpetrator community. Abusers want to hurt, inflict pain, fear, have a sense of control and power. Stories of abuse teaches how to abuse. Stories feed the imagination of perpetrators who can then plan, refine their craft and teach others of their ilk.
The ranks of the disenfranchised still include women and children whose voices are silenced by excuses. Women are vindictive and manipulative. Children are children; they do not know what they have seen, heard, thought, experienced, believe, unless informed of such by the dominant force in their life and that force will define and articulate, publish their experience.

I do not think so! The ability to talk specifically about what one has done, can do, will do, will persist until the problem is solved and belongs to the expert by experience, because they know with whom they are dealing and what the outcome must be to resolve that which has been experienced. Not the suffering but the solution to suffering must rise above the cacophony of victim chatter. The ability to learn from experience, to transform a crushing event into an event that crushes and then gives rise to new life, liberty and the pursuit of an environment free from harm must be the outcome of terrible events.