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BLAMING THE VICTIM
I despise the smug, sanctimonious words of those who look at
the desperate acts of those whom have given or taken their lives, having had
their lives taken from them by the sadistic brutality of the ignorant, though
sometimes highly educated pundits who clutter the court rooms, witness stands, chat rooms of yahoo
and google and the like.
There are those who say - "oh - there must have been
more to that situation than we knew," or, "it shows he really was
unstable", or " he used the words "feminist" so he probably
harbored some deep hatred toward his wife who took his children, his money, his
work, his home, his dignity - before he dowsed himself with gasoline, lit a
match and set himself on fire on the steps of the New Hampshire
Court House, or blew his brains out at the edge of his swimming pool in
Georgia, when his children were removed.
Others "drink the cool aid' and blame themselves as per the direction of the
mindless, inane, uneducated caseworkers of what are so inaptly named
"child protective services" who drag victims from the courts into
their supervised spider webs where the fates of our future serial killers the
loveless, soulless, brutalized new generation of sadistic killers are plotted. Those who are willing to take on the guilt, the
responsibility handed to them - in hopes of regaining their children are out of
touch with the facts that it is not the system - that is broken - but the
inhumanity of people placed in positions of too much power, with access to too
much money.
The professional victims who thrive on the attention, the
exchange of terrible stories and the endless conferences that parade the
stories of victims and their victim hood, the proximity to power and fame - yet who do not proclaim the names of
the judges, lawyers, guardian ad litem, prosecutors, police who are the true
torturers. These crowds are the ones responsible for the ongoing plague
perpetuated by child protective services; the moans and groans of "how terrible"
are meaningless when compared to the suffering of children who have been
separated from good parents and good parents who are forced to endure the loss
of a child, or children whom they adore. The pure stupidity of those who blame
those who speak out and are severely punished, perpetuate the brutality,
immorality, and endless harm caused by those who are blind and refuse to see,
deaf and who refuse to hear and dumb, yet refuse to learn - yet the messages
are all around.
Rolanda Pierre Dixon Esq., Assistant Attorney General in Santa Clara
California began the death review boards, looking at how victims of domestic
violence were dying. The pattern of victims being killed by their known abusers
was increasing in deaths during car accidents. The death review boards came to
the conclusion that as police were doing a better job of stopping violence in
the home, the violence moved from home to cars where the abuser could isolate
the victim and gain control. The victim isolated with the abuser was helpless
in the car as the abuser would in fits of rage strike out, ending with the
death or severe beating of the victim. As one woman had her arm severed in a
car accident caused by her abuser having ripped off her arm during a brutal
fight in which she was trying to flee his assaults - he stated - "damn
woman would have to die on me"........... it was her fault!
It is not the they - but the we - and if we do not grapple
with our own identification with power, glory, fame, empty praise, greed - then
the plague on all of our houses will continue.
